Know more about your funeral director and funeral home!

Prologue As this story unfolded, I pondered whether it would be worthwhile to publish an editorial on the general impact of the events. Ultimately, considering the importance of the subject matter as a cultural topic and its downstream effects on persons in the grip of acute bereavement, I felt it was not only necessary but…

When the funeral home doesn’t offer an essential service…

Whether they deserve the criticism or not, funeral directors and funeral homes sometimes get some very bad press or we read some devastating review of a funeral service written by persons who expected, needed more than what they got on the price list. Why is that, you might ask yourselves, when you feel you covered…

Let’s Take Back Our Humanity!

The Internet is literally crawling with people who have reinvented themselves from pitiful loners to supreme gurus of life, death and everything in and around those two great mysteries. On the one hand you have to admire them for their capacity to make real their fantasies and virtual lifestyles but on the other hand you have…

Bereaved and Their Caregivers Need Self-care

Good News from Another Site Life is Full of Stress; Most People Would Benefit from Some Self-care and Retreat If you don’t take care of your hands when you are doing heavy or hard work in the yard, you get blisters. If you do that kind of work regularly, your hands become rough, callused and insensitive….

Pitiful Pundits: Sites that Spread Misiniformation

Summary: The deluge of information that floods us today from myriad “providers” on the Internet is the source of enormous confusion and misinformation. This misinformation affects not only the lay person but the professional as well. The most nefarious of these sources of confusion and misinformation affect those suffering at life’s transitions, points of existential…

The Wounded Beast

The vast majority of bereaved persons and families, whom I have been blessed and privileged to serve over the years, are serenely grateful for the authenticity, openness, genuine compassion, and care that go into the personalized services I create for them. I consider my professional activities to be more of a vocation, a special calling,…

September Schedule for the RCS Community Library

We’re continuing Thanatology Café in September and picking up the program with new discussions and video presentations on dying, death, grief, mourning, and other death-related topics. Thanatology Café is a great venue for clergy, healthcare professionals, funeral service providers, and the general public, anyone who is interested in death-related topics. Where the conversation is about death…

New Feature: Articles and Essays

Dear Friends: I’ve been writing quite a bit on the subject of thanatology and many readers have requested copies of my essays and articles. To make it easier on us all, I’ve decided to create a page right here on the Thanatology Café blog, where you can click on the title and either read the…

Time out in August: Gatherings will resume in September.

Dear Friends: Summer is a time for recuperation and some fun, and I’m hoping you are all doing that and more. The Thanatology Café group needed some self-care time and so we decided that August would be a good time to do that. This means that there will be no events in August but also…

RCS Thanatology Café Catching on Big Time!

Thanatology Café met on Saturday, May 7, at the RCS Community Library. Thanks to the support of the RCS Community Library and the Ravena News Herald, we had another great event and some very remarkable conversation. The second video in the “Death: A personal understanding” series was touching and very enlightening. The video presented three…

Ethical Wills, Advance Healthcare Direcectives, Healthcare Proxies!

The Ethical Will, A Written Legacy: A Gift for Generations to Come Rev. Chaplain Harold W. Vadney M.Div. Principal Facilitator “Several months ago I tackled the chore of going through a box of old papers and mementos — we all go through the routine sooner or later and for different reasons — and I came…