The Wounded Beast

The vast majority of bereaved persons and families, whom I have been blessed and privileged to serve over the years, are serenely grateful for the authenticity, openness, genuine compassion, and care that go into the personalized services I create for them. I consider my professional activities to be more of a vocation, a special calling,…

September Schedule for the RCS Community Library

We’re continuing Thanatology Café in September and picking up the program with new discussions and video presentations on dying, death, grief, mourning, and other death-related topics. Thanatology Café is a great venue for clergy, healthcare professionals, funeral service providers, and the general public, anyone who is interested in death-related topics. Where the conversation is about death…

New Feature: Articles and Essays

Dear Friends: I’ve been writing quite a bit on the subject of thanatology and many readers have requested copies of my essays and articles. To make it easier on us all, I’ve decided to create a page right here on the Thanatology Café blog, where you can click on the title and either read the…

Time out in August: Gatherings will resume in September.

Dear Friends: Summer is a time for recuperation and some fun, and I’m hoping you are all doing that and more. The Thanatology Café group needed some self-care time and so we decided that August would be a good time to do that. This means that there will be no events in August but also…

RCS Thanatology Café Catching on Big Time!

Thanatology Café met on Saturday, May 7, at the RCS Community Library. Thanks to the support of the RCS Community Library and the Ravena News Herald, we had another great event and some very remarkable conversation. The second video in the “Death: A personal understanding” series was touching and very enlightening. The video presented three…

Ethical Wills, Advance Healthcare Direcectives, Healthcare Proxies!

The Ethical Will, A Written Legacy: A Gift for Generations to Come Rev. Chaplain Harold W. Vadney M.Div. Principal Facilitator “Several months ago I tackled the chore of going through a box of old papers and mementos — we all go through the routine sooner or later and for different reasons — and I came…

Mark Your Calendars

The Next Session of Thanatology Café will be on Saturday, May 7, 2016, from 2:00 —4:00 p.m. in the Community Room RCS Community Library 95 Main Street Ravena, New York We ask that you sign up at the RCS Community Library or at thanatology.cafe@gmail.com so that the organizers have some idea of how many participants will…

RCS Launch of Thanatology Cafe a Great Success!

The Next Thanatology Café Program Event is planned for Saturday, May 5, 2016 starting at 2:00 p.m. at the RCS Community Library 95 Main Street Ravena, New York May 5th is Holocaust Remembrance Day and will have great significance in our discussions of dying, death, and meaning.  We do ask that you sign up at…

Your Choices, Options of a Lifetime

The Choices of a Lifetime: Awareness and Education about Options An Important Essay by Rev. Chaplain Harold W. Vadney B.A., [M.A.], M.Div., Principal Facilitator, Thanatology Café I’ve always had this fear, this anxiety that seems to swell up at times and I feel an icy cold deep within me. Sometimes I have to jump out of bed…

A Discussion Group about Death: Who needs it?

The experience of a death brings with it a host of emotions including anxiety, loss, sadness, depression, and anger, and many more. You need to talk to someone about these experiences but it has to be someone who is nonjudgmental, who knows how to listen, who has had similar experience and wants to share your…

Communicating Effectively

How do we communicate in a group like Thanatology Café? Well Part of our task is to learn how to communicate effectively in a group. Most of the time we find ourselves talking. It’s like we have two ears and one mouth and the mouth has to work twice as much to keep up with…

Thanatology Café Launch Discussion

The April Thanatology Café Gathering is on Saturday, April 9th, 2016, at the The RCS Community Library 95 Main Street Ravena, NY Program starts at 2:00 p.m. and runs until about 4:00 p.m. Definitions of death have been debated for centuries, depending on culture, social conditions, and the role of the medical profession. In the Thanatology program, we…